Archive for May, 2013

Not All Who Wander Are Lost

Testing the waters here a bit. I find that I love putting outfits together more than my wallet can afford. This first set is very “me.” All fashion aspirations aside, this is the outfit I could live in the rest of my life and still be perfectly happy, weather allowing of course. No one who knows me would be surprised at any of these items. Each piece means or invokes something.

I must always have a red checked shirt in my closet. (more…)

Pit Wristbands

Rolling Stones: Pit Wristbands

Live Report: Rolling Stones – 50 and Counting…
Honda Center – Anaheim, CA
Wednesday, May 15, 2013 @ 21:00

If you had told me last year that I would be seeing the Rolling Stones in concert, I would not have believed you. If you had said I would be seeing the Rolling Stones in concert, from the pit, I would’ve called you mad. But that is exactly what happened last Wednesday- an unbelievable display of age-defying musicality and showmanship I would have never in a million years expected to be able to experience in my lifetime.

When they first announced the tour, I just wanted to get in the building so opted for the “cheap” lottery seats. $85 is more than I normally pay for shows but it was such a once-in-a-lifetime experience, I couldn’t resist. It was a bit nerve-wracking not knowing where we would end up at the venue but on the day of the show, we packed up the binoculars and hoped for the best.

Some people have asked me how the seat lottery works. (more…)

[ Musings ] Being “Too Nice”

Posted: May 16, 2013 in Blog

We think that being nice will get the acceptance, approval, validation, or peace we crave, so we repress our honest feelings and expression. Playing nice may seem like a good idea at the time, but if it isn’t real, it creates resentment.” ~ Christine Hassler

This has been one of my biggest issues during and after my marriage. I keep looking for approval, for somewhere to fit in and belong. Sometimes that means “playing nice” to assimilate better. Where do you draw the line though? There’s being nice, just to be nice. Then there’s being “too nice” and letting people walk over you. Plus all the grey areas in between.

I typically err on the “too nice” side to be safe. There are times when I don’t even know if I’m being authentic or not because how I feel at that moment changes when I look back on it days after. I get so focused on the current situation or a certain person that I’ll immerse myself in the heat of that moment and act accordingly. It’s not until days after when I step back and think, “Wait, that was too much.”

So which “me” is real? The person I was in the present when the situation happened? Or the one in the future looking back?